The pearl represents the union of masculine and feminine. The pearl is said to be formed of male fire/lightning and female water. More poetically said it is the merging of water and moonlight, a metaphor for the inner marriage creates pearls. The creation of a pearl inside of the clam is an alchemical process where one thing is transformed into something new.
Alchemy, best know as the age-old science of turning base metal, such as lead into gold. The same alchemical process happens in each of us as we turn what we perceive to be our biggest weaknesses into our greatest strength. In mystical tradition, it is metaphoric for a path of self-knowledge and transformation. The symbols of alchemy lie deep in the collective consciousness. Pearl diving can be viewed as an alchemical process as is the inner marriage. The raw materials, which are the hidden aspects of the self, are discovered and transmuted into a beautiful new power and aspect of the self.
This alchemical process occurs within us every time we dive to our dive to our depths in search of that inner pearl. If we are diligent and honest we can discover disowned parts of ourselves and change them magically into gold pearls. We can find the things within us that are not working and make pearls of them.
Many traditions suggest that deep in man’s psyche is an imprinted image of the ideal man. The same is true for women. That image is subject to cultural change. One wonders where it came from in the first place. What characterizes the image of present-day man? What is the image of the new man and new woman, the one that is unfolding in the present day as we stand on the edge of change? Is this image a reflection coming from Source that tells us we are divine and perfect as we are? That is what I am picking up.
The inner image can manifest as the dream lover, which is the person we feel would complete our soul. We want someone who will understand us, love and accept us and that would set us free so we could soar and express what is inside of us and give voice to our soul. The image of the ideal lover can take us away from reality and put unrealistic expectations on the lovers that do come into our lives. That process has to happen within us first. I know that I have believed in a soul mate and there were many years where I chased after that illusive person who was going to complete me because I believed it was outside of me. I often found willing and unwilling people to play that part for me as I quested for wholeness.
A friend said to me once ” You are always very invested in some magical relationship or the pursuit of one or the fantasizing of one…how is that going on the love front?” It made me laugh because he was the object of one of my romantic fantasies at one time. I responded ” I gave up on magical thinking. It caused me too much trouble. Gosh, I have a fertile imagination! I wish I would have channeled all of that energy into some steamy romance novel! It would have been a best seller and I could have been rich by now.”
After a number of relationships that didn’t work I stopped chasing the fantasy and decided to find out who I was, which is when the process of inner marriage began for me.
My personal inner marriage had to take place while I was out of a relationship and alone. Little did I know it would take 12 years!
I think that most people can remember a time when they saw someone across the room and before the end of the evening they were married with children, in their mind. I was at home one day with my son and daughter and a group of their friends, all young people in their twenties. Out of curiosity I asked ” has anyone ever made up a relationship in their mind? I thought maybe I was the only weirdo that did that kind of thing. Everyone there said they had. My son told me he had been married three times in his mind and my daughter had too and that I had a lot of grandchildren! I did some of my greatest transformational work in fantasy relationships because of the angst it put me through!
It is not an outer partner who makes us complete. We feel complete when balance occurs within us. The true inner marriage takes place inside of us when masculine and feminine unite. Balancing the feminine and masculine in the human soul lies at the heart of the processes of inner transformation. Through this process we can rediscover our wild nature which is our true essence.
To know yourself is the path to conscious living, for in knowing who your are and accepting yourself completely with all of the strengths and weaknesses having equal status you can accept other’s completely and have compassion. You have healthy boundaries where you can set limits and also allow others to be in communion with you.
The process of the inner marriage begins when you realize that you do have a treasure within that is the pearl of your beauty. The decision to explore the inner landscape takes a great deal of courage. Many are not willing to go on that journey but those who do are greeted with unexpected surprises. We may fear the worst and discover the best. We will discover lost parts of ourselves and enter into a marriage within that can lead us to find our equal in a partner in the outer world. Pearls await you if you are willing to dive deeply and discover your wild nature.
I encourage you to dive in and go on this journey of self love…